Sunday, April 15, 2012
Gay Community - this definitely exists, and indeed sets us apart. Thanks to the prejudice, hatred, and persecution from straight people; gay folks were forced to form their own community for survival and mutual support. If you look back in history, Mormons did the same thing when they were the hated, persecuted minority, and in many ways we still do it. The Mormon Community is alive, well and thriving thank you! Jews and other persecuted minorities have done the same at various times and under certain circumstances. This is natural, and is simply part of survival. So the fact that gays have their own 'community' - seems pretty normal.
Gay Culture - yes, this too exists. There are many elements to gay culture.You have gay emblems (rainbow flag), gay jargon (bears, twinks, etc), gay lieterature, gay movies, gay music, gay theatre, gay bars, etc. etc. etc. But is this really any different than other sub-cultures in our society? Let's stick with the example of Mormons, since we're on a roll. Mormons have Mormon emblems (Angel Moroni, CTR ring), Mormon jargon (General Authority, RM, etc. too many others to list), Mormon literature (go to Deseret Book and be overwhelmed), Mormon movies (visit Temple Square), Mormon Music (Mormon Tabernacle Choir, others), Mormon theatre (Hill Cumorah Pageant), etc. etc. etc. So is gay culture really any different than other groups or sub-cultures? Nope! Seems pretty normal.
Gay Lifestyle - this one falls flat for me. A lifestyle is a particular way of living, and for someone to be living a certain lifestyle one has to be following a pretty well-defined set of rules or expectations surrounding that lifestyle. Perhaps there is a military lifestyle - since so much of your life is dictated by someone else and there are all these rules. But I don't see a gay lifestyle. In fact, you could argue that Mormons have more of a "lifestyle" than gay people, since you have to follow such a rigid set of standards to be considered a good one. Gay people are simply living life. There is no set criteria that defines how we live. Some are conservative; others liberal. Some religious; others not so much. Some are in committed relationships; others have no commitments. Some are 'out and proud' others are quiet and in the closet. Some have kids; others don't. Some are married to the same sex; others are married to the opposite sex. The variety of "lifestyles" gay people live is really endless. You could say the same about straight people too. There isn't one prescribed "lifestyle" they live. The variation is endless. So once again, gay people seem pretty normal.
I think us gay people are simply living life the best we know how under the circumstances in which we find ourselves. This varies from individual to individual and with every situation. But our community and our culture is not a "lifestyle". We're really just normal folk with normal lives and hopes and dreams and everything inbetween. Just like everyone else...